How To Gain Confidence – How To Think Positively

By: Doktor K

There are a lot of people who spend their days focussed on what's bad about their life. They can talk at length about what is lacking:

"I don't have a big enough house"

"I don't earn enough"

"I don't have a relationship"

This kind of focus on the negatives is common but also very destructive. If you are only focussed on the things that are bad in your life, the fact is you will never be happy. The fact is that there will always be something "lacking" in life. Once you have a big house, there will always be a bigger house to strive for. You can always earn more money. There will always be someone better looking than you. You will be forever chasing happiness in the future. This is a recipe for misery.

Although we fool ourselves into thinking everything will be better once we get the great job, the big house and the beautiful partner, the fact is if we retain a negative focus, this doesn't go away. No amount of external goal achievement will help us.

It's time to face facts. It's not the lack of a big house or big salary that is preventing you from being happy. Once you achieve those things, there will always be something else that is lacking to keep you from being happy. The truth is if you focus on what is lacking, that is what is preventing you from being happy.

This can be quite hard to acknowledge or accept. That our happiness doesn't exist out there. You may have heard the expression before "Happiness is an inside job"

If you focus on what is good in your life, this is a powerful way of shifting the balance of power towards yourself. If you can find happiness in where you are now, that is the key to happiness.

Remember this doesn't mean you give up all ambition. It doesn't mean you stop striving to be better. A lot of people fear taking away the dissatisfaction with their current state because they think it will take away their drive. But what it actually does is that it gives you permission to be happy now. And happiness makes achievement of goals more likely not less likely.

Take a few minutes to write down three things you are grateful for. It could be to do with your family, friends or health. It could be because you are one of the privileged few on this planet who have access to an internet connection to read this article.

Think of pleasant experiences you have had in life. Think of all the positive things in your life. Try and feel the full pleasure of all the good things in your life. When you appreciate the positive in your life, you feel more positive. When you feel positive, you will see positive in all the situations in your life.

This happiness and positivity are the cornerstone of true confidence. The more positive you are about yourself, your life and your abilities the more confident you will feel.

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